Comments on: Scott http://fanaticalapathy.com/2008/05/17/scott/ America's favorite blog Tue, 16 Mar 2010 21:55:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.11 by: Susie http://fanaticalapathy.com/2008/05/17/scott/#comment-33097 Sat, 31 May 2008 02:26:45 +0000 http://fanaticalapathy.com/2008/05/17/scott/#comment-33097 This is an important and beautiful tribute. I'm so glad you wrote about him. And what a wonderful picture too. This is an important and beautiful tribute. I’m so glad you wrote about him. And what a wonderful picture too.

]]> by: Scott's Mommy http://fanaticalapathy.com/2008/05/17/scott/#comment-33080 Fri, 30 May 2008 00:47:52 +0000 http://fanaticalapathy.com/2008/05/17/scott/#comment-33080 Thank you Adam. My heart is breaking and will never be whole again. Yet, your words and the outpouring of love and support by those who knew and loved my son - and those who have been touched and uplifted by those words, have given me great solace. To think that one's beautiful child meant so much to so many and that his life and presence, though far too short, may have inspired others to emulate his capacity for love and compassion is the greatest gift he can leave. Scott's Mommy, Carole Thank you Adam. My heart is breaking and will never be whole again. Yet, your words and the outpouring of love and support by those who knew and loved my son - and those who have been touched and uplifted by those words, have given me great solace. To think that one’s beautiful child meant so much to so many and that his life and presence, though far too short, may have inspired others to emulate his capacity for love and compassion is the greatest gift he can leave.

Scott’s Mommy, Carole

]]> by: Krista http://fanaticalapathy.com/2008/05/17/scott/#comment-33070 Wed, 28 May 2008 04:40:17 +0000 http://fanaticalapathy.com/2008/05/17/scott/#comment-33070 I knew Scott well and it means a lot to me to have been able to read your eulogy to him. I first met him in 2000 or 2001 when we took a UCLA extension class in Abnormal Psychology. You captured who he was so well. I was out of the country and unable to attend the memorial service and was shocked and devastated to hear upon my return that he had passed away. He was an incredibly positive, uplifting, supportive, person in my life who always believed in me. He was someone I could rely on to pick me up when I was in the depths of despair and was my greatest cheerleader and champion in the dark times and in my times of success. I am so happy you posted a picture of him as I didn't have any of my own. I will remember his enthusiastic spirit, his smile and mischevious grin, his bright intense eyes and the way he made me feel like I could achieve all my hopes and dreams and that he would do whatever he could to help me along the way. It's such a tragedy that his bright and vibrant spirit is no longer with us. He was a great friend. An important influence in my life. I'm crying too much right now to continue so I'll just say good-bye now and thank you again for sharing your memories and relfections. Krista I knew Scott well and it means a lot to me to have been able to read your eulogy to him. I first met him in 2000 or 2001 when we took a UCLA extension class in Abnormal Psychology. You captured who he was so well. I was out of the country and unable to attend the memorial service and was shocked and devastated to hear upon my return that he had passed away. He was an incredibly positive, uplifting, supportive, person in my life who always believed in me. He was someone I could rely on to pick me up when I was in the depths of despair and was my greatest cheerleader and champion in the dark times and in my times of success. I am so happy you posted a picture of him as I didn’t have any of my own. I will remember his enthusiastic spirit, his smile and mischevious grin, his bright intense eyes and the way he made me feel like I could achieve all my hopes and dreams and that he would do whatever he could to help me along the way. It’s such a tragedy that his bright and vibrant spirit is no longer with us. He was a great friend. An important influence in my life. I’m crying too much right now to continue so I’ll just say good-bye now and thank you again for sharing your memories and relfections.
Krista

]]> by: Steven http://fanaticalapathy.com/2008/05/17/scott/#comment-32742 Wed, 21 May 2008 16:05:11 +0000 http://fanaticalapathy.com/2008/05/17/scott/#comment-32742 I first met Scott in the 7th grade, when the two of us gawked at the new , scintillating upper school receptionist. Of course, Scott took it upon himself to actually court her, bringing her lunch and routinely "checking-in." I havent seen him since graduation, 22 years ago, and yet I somehow feel his absence and am deeply saddened. He was so wonderfully and lightheartedly different - never in a strange way, but in such an embracingly and lovingly way. Selfishly, I am angry that I didnt attend our recent reunion, because he is one with whom I would have loved to reconnect. I am very sorry. I first met Scott in the 7th grade, when the two of us gawked at the new , scintillating upper school receptionist. Of course, Scott took it upon himself to actually court her, bringing her lunch and routinely “checking-in.” I havent seen him since graduation, 22 years ago, and yet I somehow feel his absence and am deeply saddened. He was so wonderfully and lightheartedly different - never in a strange way, but in such an embracingly and lovingly way. Selfishly, I am angry that I didnt attend our recent reunion, because he is one with whom I would have loved to reconnect. I am very sorry.

]]> by: Kathi http://fanaticalapathy.com/2008/05/17/scott/#comment-32728 Wed, 21 May 2008 08:23:55 +0000 http://fanaticalapathy.com/2008/05/17/scott/#comment-32728 Hi Adam. We were friends at Tufts--I'm Seth's friend Kathi Inman. My husband Brad grew up with Scott, and I met Scott a couple of times at Ben's wedding (if you know Ben and Jess.) Scott did impress me as tremendously smart--scintillating, actually--and his op-ed in the NYT is just exactly right ("Torture in Iraq? Try a Little Tenderness.) Brad was at the memorial. I was watching the kids after work, and would have felt a little like an imposter showing up b/c Scott couldn't have picked me out of a lineup. So I didn't hire a sitter and stayed home. But now I wish I'd gone, because I've heard different fragments of Scott's life. Thank you for writing about Scott. It's eerie to grieve for someone I barely knew. And yet I am. Hi Adam. We were friends at Tufts–I’m Seth’s friend Kathi Inman. My husband Brad grew up with Scott, and I met Scott a couple of times at Ben’s wedding (if you know Ben and Jess.) Scott did impress me as tremendously smart–scintillating, actually–and his op-ed in the NYT is just exactly right (”Torture in Iraq? Try a Little Tenderness.) Brad was at the memorial. I was watching the kids after work, and would have felt a little like an imposter showing up b/c Scott couldn’t have picked me out of a lineup. So I didn’t hire a sitter and stayed home. But now I wish I’d gone, because I’ve heard different fragments of Scott’s life. Thank you for writing about Scott. It’s eerie to grieve for someone I barely knew. And yet I am.

]]> by: gillian http://fanaticalapathy.com/2008/05/17/scott/#comment-32710 Wed, 21 May 2008 02:39:44 +0000 http://fanaticalapathy.com/2008/05/17/scott/#comment-32710 Jake's right. But the "We love you" part should be employed early on and often. Jake’s right. But the “We love you” part should be employed early on and often.

]]> by: Jake http://fanaticalapathy.com/2008/05/17/scott/#comment-32699 Tue, 20 May 2008 23:15:32 +0000 http://fanaticalapathy.com/2008/05/17/scott/#comment-32699 Sorry, Adam. Your friend sounds like one in a million. Boomer's right though. You should share some of Scott's charisma and lore with Baz, but maybe you could save the "What the fuck?" part until his teenage years. Sorry, Adam. Your friend sounds like one in a million. Boomer’s right though. You should share some of Scott’s charisma and lore with Baz, but maybe you could save the “What the fuck?” part until his teenage years.

]]> by: Aunt Sam http://fanaticalapathy.com/2008/05/17/scott/#comment-32692 Tue, 20 May 2008 21:31:56 +0000 http://fanaticalapathy.com/2008/05/17/scott/#comment-32692 I am very sorry for your loss, Adam. My dad died as a result of a car accident in 2004. He was 74. When I was growing up, he was the only one in our neighborhood who distrusted Nixon, and campaigned for McGovern. He was active online in the antiwar movement starting in 2002. I wish he were here so we could share the phenomenon of Barack Obama. And I am reminded once again of what a talented writer you are. I've read this tribute to your friend several times over, and it moves me each time. I am very sorry for your loss, Adam.

My dad died as a result of a car accident in 2004. He was 74.

When I was growing up, he was the only one in our neighborhood who distrusted Nixon, and campaigned for McGovern. He was active online in the antiwar movement starting in 2002. I wish he were here so we could share the phenomenon of Barack Obama.

And I am reminded once again of what a talented writer you are. I’ve read this tribute to your friend several times over, and it moves me each time.

]]> by: Becca (and Brian) http://fanaticalapathy.com/2008/05/17/scott/#comment-32643 Tue, 20 May 2008 03:51:53 +0000 http://fanaticalapathy.com/2008/05/17/scott/#comment-32643 Just checked in and saw the news. I'm so sorry for your loss Adam and for the loss to all Scott's friends and family, and to all of us as well. Thank you for sharing some of your memories and stories with us. I hope you continue to do so and let Scott's spirit and memory live on that way. Losing a friend or a family member too soon is so hard... and makes us all reappreciate life. Cherish Baz all the more and as Boomer suggested, share some of Scott with him. - joining the group hug- Just checked in and saw the news. I’m so sorry for your loss Adam and for the loss to all Scott’s friends and family, and to all of us as well. Thank you for sharing some of your memories and stories with us. I hope you continue to do so and let Scott’s spirit and memory live on that way.

Losing a friend or a family member too soon is so hard… and makes us all reappreciate life. Cherish Baz all the more and as Boomer suggested, share some of Scott with him.

- joining the group hug-

]]> by: gillian http://fanaticalapathy.com/2008/05/17/scott/#comment-32634 Tue, 20 May 2008 01:54:27 +0000 http://fanaticalapathy.com/2008/05/17/scott/#comment-32634 I'm with piglet and Zee Man - group hug. You too, Adam. I’m with piglet and Zee Man - group hug. You too, Adam.

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