Is it just me, or does everyone seem a little sensitive these days?
[Note to self - complete work on short film of people saying “Is it just me….” Examples: Zombie - “Is it just me, or does this place smell like rotting flesh?” Man on desert island - “Is it just me or…. Yeah. It’s just me.”]
Anyway, I thought I’d detected a slight amount of increased sensitivity in the comments lately. Nothing gigantic, but I thought I’d say a thing or two.
First - I want to offend you. I’m not a shock jock or a Lenny Bruce worshiper or an angry college freshman. But Funny comes from an affront to what you think is right in some way or another. Whether it’s what you personally think is right or what you perceive others as thinking is right or an expectation you have about language or physics or the way things work… one of those expectations has to be assaulted in order for Funny to happen. And that’s about as far as I ever want to go in defining humor.
But about the two most recent complaints in the Comments, I want to say a tiny bit more.
First, on using the word “pussies” in the sense meaning “coward.” As Ann said below, in a world where “dick” is a great insult (and it is, though “prick” tends to pack more of a punch), there’s no reason to leave “pussy” out. Two things to remember here - first, those insults correspond pretty damn well to physical characteristics. If someone is obtrusive, selfish, and has a tendency to poke into your business without regard to your feelings… they’re being a dick. On the other hand, if someone is retiring, hidden, not “out there,” if their only real mode of defense is to remain folded in on themselves… as I said, these are pretty well-conceived insults. As a culture, we oughta be proud.
But more importantly, we’re talking about genitals, not people. Calling somebody a pussy isn’t the same as calling somebody a woman. Okay, it’s more complicated than that, perhaps. But I can cleverly escape those complications by ending the paragraph and changing the subject.
Now, on to a couple of days ago, when I was taken to task for recommending that a warm compress be made from the following materials: “Warm lunch meat, soil, organic fertilizer, melon rinds, discarded sanitary napkins, dead rodents, vegetable mold, and dog shit.” This articulate objection came my way:
Menstrual blood is mostly regular blood, you know, and it was clean enough to nurture each one of us for nine months! But thanks, Adam, for promulgating the notion that menstruation is “unclean.”
I don’t think those thanks were sincere. In fact, my wife confirmed this when I loudly read it to her from outside her menstrual hut. But I’m going to stand by it anyway. “Mostly regular blood” is exactly what I was looking for in this example. What would you NOT want to press onto an open wound? That was the question I asked myself. “A stranger’s blood” was definitely on my list, and it remains so. And “discarded sanitary napkins” was a quick and funny way of getting there. It’s a two-fer - you get whatever virulent disease the original owner may have had, plus an object teeming with ravenous microorganisms feeding on protein-rich source…
Am I promulgating a myth or not being positive enough about the life-giving qualities of menstrual blood? I dunno - I see a difference between saying a menstruating woman is “unclean” and saying that one might not want to employ an anonymous used tampon as a teabag. [Please note that I refrained from making a “Red Zinger” joke here.] [Dammit! Please note I almost refrained…]
Anyway, I realize that even you “offended” parties weren’t deeply offended. But I wanted to promise you all that I will continue to offend. Though when it comes to physically confronting people I tend to be a pussy, here on the internet - and I don’t want to come across as an asshole about this - I will continue to be a dick.





58 comments
Ann
May 31, 2007 at 12:01 pm
1Wow, I’m quoted. But I must point out that you’re falling way behind if your intention is to offend your regular readers. Can’t we all just laugh at the others?
Ann's Used Sanitary Napkin
May 31, 2007 at 12:22 pm
2Perhaps he’s trying extra hard so you go away. Although for being such a pussy about words, you do provide a wealth of comic material for him to write about, so he might want you to stay around. Hell, I’m hoping he drops the C-bomb on you just to see how you respond.
tim
May 31, 2007 at 1:10 pm
3The secret to success is to offend the greatest number of people.
- George Bernard Shaw
So, Adam, go for it, and don’t spend all the money in one place. And if you want any more proof than Shaw’s word for it, look at the career of Dick Cheney.
Ann
May 31, 2007 at 1:24 pm
4Wait…my ex reads this blog?
Harold
May 31, 2007 at 3:39 pm
5Adam, you should know that I offend easily. I can often offend a roomful of people just by entering it.
I am reminded of the old “Offensensitivity” cartoon from Bloom County.
Adam Felber
May 31, 2007 at 3:43 pm
6Now this is some world-class commenting right here.
Harold - I almost used “offensensitivity” as my title. But given the subject matter, I went with the above…
Boomer
May 31, 2007 at 3:53 pm
7Ann, which ex are you talking about - tim or your Used Sanitary Napkin?
Scott Spiegelberg
May 31, 2007 at 4:13 pm
8I dunno, Adam. You sound kinda sensitive about the comments. No guts? Don’t be a boob, with your butt-head reactions to criticism.
Ann
May 31, 2007 at 4:38 pm
9Silly Boomer, Tim isn’t my ex. But maybe he’s using a pseudonym…
YLlama
May 31, 2007 at 4:40 pm
10Look forward to seeing “Is It Just Me: A Film in Eleven Acts,” starring Dan Hedaya, Lindsay Lohan, warm lunch meat, soil, organic fertilizer, melon rinds, discarded sanitary napkins, Michael Moore, dead rodents, vegetable mold, and dog shit, at next year’s SIFF.
Doc Nagel
May 31, 2007 at 5:35 pm
11The C-bomb?
Cheney?? I mean, yeah, he’s a Dick and all, but I thought this was about offensive words, not, you know, real obscenities.
Oh, no! You don’t mean Constitution, do you? ‘cuz EYWWWWH!
David
May 31, 2007 at 6:18 pm
12Where the hell is that Geico caveman when you need him?
It's Pat!
May 31, 2007 at 7:14 pm
13I am numb and dumb, you can not offend;
about the subject of pussies, I shall not pretend;
how can you say it’s a sign of weakness;
when every straight guy I know
runs for it like the Preakness.
Not bad huh poetry from an old…person.
Adam, I think irony makes the best humor. But your post got comments that just made me laugh out loud. I especially liked the fact that a sanitary napkin made it’s voice heard. I can’t wait for someone’s condom to provide the counterpoint.
becca (and brian)
May 31, 2007 at 7:15 pm
14We’re looking forward to being offended June 28th in Portland, hopefully by the man himself. (Please, Adam!) In fact I’m honing my sensitivity as we speak.
Just picked up our tickets for WWDTM yesterday. YAY! Any other Felbernuts in OR going to the show?
Becca (and Brian)
another Bloom County classic: “remember, guns don’t kill people. poorly constructed comic strips kill people.”
SeattleTammy
May 31, 2007 at 7:32 pm
15I’m hoping my favorite joke from PHC will offend someone:
What did the Maxi-pad say to the Fart?
“You are the Wind Beneath My Wings.”
SeattleDan
May 31, 2007 at 7:45 pm
16Do we know if Adam is going to appear on the Portland show? We just checked ticketmeister and the last seats available in the last row of the upper balcony. We’d make the drive (and drag Ann along with us) if we thought Adam was going to be there… and to meet Becca (and Brian).
becca (and brian)
May 31, 2007 at 8:09 pm
17Oh do come! I was going to ask if you two (or three or four?) might be able to make it down. We’ll be up in the way upper balcony too and would love the company. Besides, after missing out on Felberpalooza I’m itching for a west coast get-together.
We were hoping to stop by and visit the bookstore over the holiday weekend but the wedding festivities kept us out east (Redmond and beyond) the whole time. We’re already planning for our next trip though; we think we’ll grab the train and just play tourist (the water front, the library, your store, some funky neighborhoods, etc.).
Come play in Portland! (Adam, that means you too!)
MBinLA
May 31, 2007 at 8:10 pm
18“Used tampon as a teabag”–gosh that takes me back a lot of years to a joke about a vampire who ordered a cup of hot water because he drank instant.
Deborah
May 31, 2007 at 9:42 pm
19So, Adam, you want to share those “menstrual hut” blueprints? Many a month my husband and I have discussed how adding one to our property would improve our lives. I could brood in peace and he wouldn’t have to keep asking “is there something wrong?” as I glare at him and everything else that moves.
Adam Felber
June 1, 2007 at 12:41 am
20I just checked - I will be in Portland.
David
June 1, 2007 at 3:48 am
21You lucky motherfuckers on the Left Coast. When will W,W,DTM play the Green Swamp, goddammit?
Dr. Seuss's condom
June 1, 2007 at 4:30 am
22Oh, the Places You’ll Go!
David
June 1, 2007 at 4:39 am
23And the things you’ll do.
OT (of course): An amazing commencement address delivered by Mark Danner at Cal.
http://www.tomdispatch.com/index.mhtml?emx=x&pid=200332
Dr. Seuss´s condom
June 1, 2007 at 6:17 am
24The Whos you Won´t Hatch!
dee
June 1, 2007 at 9:09 am
25David, that Mark Danner speech is amazing. It is as clear-eyed and articulate an assessment of the last six years as I have ever read. Thank you for bringing it to us.
Ann
June 1, 2007 at 9:56 am
26I’m willing to be offended in person. Count me in on the Portland trip! I promise not to bring along USN—we split up years ago.
Retired Catholic
June 1, 2007 at 9:57 am
27Since they are not one of the seven unholy words, and since further they are seen as fit for the Daily Show and the Colbert Report and still further, since good comedy should also creep you out just a tad you may use the Red Zinger anytime you choose and I’ll try not to feel too soiled.
piglet
June 1, 2007 at 11:53 am
28Yay! I took you Felbernauts’ advice a month or two ago and re-upped my OPB (Oregon Public Broadcasting) membership with the extortionate rates required to get WWDTM tickets. I’ll be heading across The Mighty Columbia for the show.
Jim (OJNTNJ)
June 1, 2007 at 11:58 am
29Dang! Too late for tickets. Does anyone have any suggestions for a social get together after the show, provided Adam’s not too tired?
The Schnitzer’s right downtown, so there are a lot of possible venues.
BTW: My apartment’s too small for the gathering of felberites/nauts, otherwise I’d be happy to host.
Jim (OJNTNJ)
June 1, 2007 at 12:02 pm
30Edited to add “,or doesn’t already have previous plans?”
becca (and brian)
June 1, 2007 at 12:07 pm
31Ann/Piglet/Jim(OJNTNJ): Fantastic! Should I bring the Maker’s Mark?
The place we’re renting is unfortunately also too small. Does anyone who has been in town longer have some suggestions near Broadway? Let’s definitely try to have a Felbernuts get-together, hopefully with the man of honor himself if that works for him schedule-wise.
SeattleClan: Can you guys make it down too? Did you purchase tickets in time?
David: that address was fantastic, but also just massively depressing and infuriating. Some of the quotes in there from the administration just make one’s head explode. How is it that these things can be public knowledge, and yet there have been no repercussions or consequences? It just makes a mockery of what you’d like to think the country could stand for. Where’s the independent media doing an expose? (Naive girl will now go back to her fairy-tale world).
Ann
June 1, 2007 at 3:27 pm
32OK, I have the tickets for SeattleDan, SeattleTammy, and myself. Jim, I think you can still order them from TicketMaster.
Road trip! You Portlanders will have to arrange the meeting place. Adam, even though we’ll be in the back row, we still hope you’ll acknowledge us.
piglet
June 1, 2007 at 3:33 pm
33I have an appropriately sized party house, but it’s 17 miles up I-5 in North Vancouver.
I’ll ask my son, the Portland Bohemian, for close-by comfy pub suggestions.
SeattleDan
June 1, 2007 at 3:41 pm
34Jim, I just checked Ticketmeister (4:30 PDT) and individual seats are still available.
I lived in Portland from ‘72-’74. I don’t think the places I knew then are still around now.
Pope Benny 16
June 1, 2007 at 5:56 pm
35Okay, so I had a senior moment & forgot my passport when I went to Brazil last month. Big deal. Father Luigi slipped the customs official a couple of hundred euros and all the problems went away. Oh, yeah, and I had to bless his grandchild, Pedro or Guido or Ronaldo or some such name and also pray for his crippled niece. I will say this for the Brazilians - they are much more reasonable than these grease ball guineas here in Italy. And don’t get me started on bribing the Germans. Ach, du liebe!
Here’s a joke that Cardinal Bernard Law told in the Holy See the other day.
A bus stops and two Italian men get on. They sit down and engage in an animated conversation.
The lady sitting behind them ignores them at first, but then is drawn into the conversation when she hears one of the men telling a story.
“Emma come first.
Den I come.
Den two asses come together.
I come once-a-more.
Two asses, they come together again.
I come again and pee twice.
Then I come one lasta time.”
“You foul-mouthed swine, ” retorted the lady indignantly. “In this country we don’t talk about our sex lives in public!”
“Who talkin’ abouta sexa? I’m a justa tellin’ my frienda how to spella Mississippi.”
I know, I know. I should excommunicate the bastard, but he somehow found out about Heinrich and me back in 1953. Come on! It was completely innocent! How did he ever get wind of that affair? Okay, wrong word. Friendship! Yeah, that’s what I meant to say. It was a friendship.
Bernard really is a son-of-a-bitch. I’ll tell God to plague him with boils… yeah, like that will actually happen.
David
June 1, 2007 at 6:37 pm
36“How is it that these things can be public knowledge, and yet there have been no repercussions or consequences?” becca, I’ve been screaming that question for quite some time now, sometimes to myself, sometimes as a duet with my Sweetie when we both feel like our heads are going to explode. We also then take our “Save those brain cells” breaks, which ya gotta do to preserve as much of your sanity as this modern world (a nod to Tom Tomorrow, of course) will allow. I also do Gator r & r, although I think the trip you and brian took represents the ultimate r & r.
David
June 1, 2007 at 7:37 pm
37I hope to Lobster this appears only once, not multiple times. I think Fanny was playing, but it could just be my general incompetence. At any rate, one more OT, a wonderful piece by WaPo’s Eugene Robinson.
http://www.truthdig.com/report/item/20070601_america_likes_an_idiot_bu t_it_needs_al_gore/
mdhatter
June 1, 2007 at 9:00 pm
38brilliant.
gillian
June 2, 2007 at 4:04 am
39I guess you have to be a drop-dead gorgeous redhead to get you name mentioned in this blog (Eat flaming death and die, Ann!), so I don’t really qualify for that honor - except on the rare henna enhanced good-hair day, back lit from an oblique and unusual angle, when I’ve hidden Heather’s coke bottle glasses and contacts and she’s a little ripped on Thunderbird. Sigh. It’s a man’s world, I guess.
me
June 2, 2007 at 8:41 am
40I am offended by your apology, pussy.
I am joking, of course. Really, if you ever did offend me, I would swell with pride.
Funny has much to do with the interference patterns that occur when one person’s version of reality rubs up against another’s. Politeness runs the other way. I wouldn’t worry about it too much.
Dale
June 2, 2007 at 11:13 am
41¨I guess you have to be a drop-dead gorgeous redhead to g…¨
Wait! The pieces all fit! Ann–are you secretly Maureen Dowd?
David
June 2, 2007 at 11:22 am
42gillian, I know I’ve included your name a couple of times, so I’m assuming I am exempt from eating flaming death and dying. My mother used henna rinse for as far back as I can remember, so I have an automatic soft spot in my heart for henna rinsees. A little? ripped on Thunderbird? Sounds like hangover-bound good times. When I was living in NYC eons ago, Thunderbird made a pitch to sell their wine as a fine dining beverage for upscale blacks. Wish I still had one of the subway posters.
If you have a connection in the Tampa area, see if they can get Heather some Dude 44, the poor man’s Mad Dog 20/20.
Dirk's Diary
June 2, 2007 at 4:14 pm
436-02-07
Dear Diary,
It’s been quite a while since I’ve written anything here. I am constantly on the go, 18 hour days, one right after another. I’m too old to be doing this job. Oh well, only 20 or so months before the new administration takes over and I can retire to Pocatella, Cour de Alene, or maybe even Post Falls. I don’t know why, but that town has some sort of draw on me.
I had to dip into our retirement fund this week to cover Patricia’s shopping orgy at Macy’s last month, when she flew up to Manhattan for the day with her flock of biddies. I’m glad she’s making friends here in DC, but I’d be even gladder if they didn’t hiss at me when I walk into the room (A complete and total accident, believe me.). I think some of her crowd are Liberals, two of them are lesbians, and some are 12th generation Washingtonians, who don’t suffer cowboys well.
Patricia hates when I do this, but whenever the “girls” are at the house (drinking my wine), I make a point of entering the room, sloshing a glass of whiskey, walking by the group in my cowboy boots with a glob of dog shit (compliments of our neighbor’s cur) on the bottom of one boot, and walking out mindlessly whistling “Buffalo Gals Won’t You Come Out Tonight?” - badly - and giving a hearty YAAAAAHOOOO as I’m clopping down the hall. I mean, if they’re going to hiss at me anyway…
Fredo Gonzales will be slathered in honey and staked over the ant hill soon. He reminds me of that awful Joe Pesci film where Joe’s character keeps getting struck by lightning over and over again. People at Justice are crossing to the other side of the hall or ducking into the nearest office whenever they see him coming. The latest thing is for the career lawyers to go down to the boiler room and howl like wolves and whoever is in the office with Fredo reports back on whether sweat breaks out on his upper lip when he hears it. Those scamps!
Word has it that the House and Senate Intelligence Committees will be hauling John Ashcroft in front of them and grilling him about the time Alberto and Andy Card came to his ICU, while he’s on his near-deathbed and hopped up on drugs, and tried to get him to sign-off on the warrantless wiretapping. Who says nothing fun happens in DC during the summer? I do hope they put him off until August, when it’s hotter than 40 Hells here.
Diary, I can’t believe it’s already fire season back home. Those forest fires will absolutely make your blood run cold. I guess you have to see and smell one before you can appreciate the thrill and the danger involved. This week I’ll be sniffing out any extra money in the budget to pass along to the Smoke Jumpers and the other fire fighters out west. Wish me luck.
Dirk
Zee Man
June 2, 2007 at 4:37 pm
44“Fredo” Gonzales? I thought it was Alberto. Oh wait; Fredo - like in the Godfather? Where they go out in the row boat at dawn and Al Pacino whacks him and drops him into the lake? You think Bush will off Gonzo? If he does, I sure hope someone has a camera phone handy when it happens. I want to see that on YouTube, over and over.
hedera
June 2, 2007 at 9:34 pm
45I’d say this was off topic except that Dirk and the Pope have already pulled this waaay over:
Elizabeth Edwards was the “Not My Job” victim on WWDTM this morning and that woman is AWESOME!! Charming, clever, smooth, and she read Peter Segal like a comic book: the most brilliant job of cold reading I’ve ever heard. She got 2 right on the questions by evaluating the way he talked about her tentative choices of answers: and she TOLD him she was doing it and still scored! Even Carl Kasell commented on it. If this woman has been willing to put up with John Edwards for 30 years, there must be more to him than I thought.
Actually: can’t we run HER for president? (Yeah, I just remembered the cancer - but as president she’d have the best health care in the world…)
David
June 3, 2007 at 4:27 am
46hedera,
I agree. I’ve thought for some time she is one of the very brightest lights in the chandelier of American political life. And you’ve picked an excellent indicator for who and what John Edwards is. My original thought, some time back, was that I want this woman for first lady. No other past, current, or aspiring president has a spouse who would best her. She has the most noteworthy attributes of all the previous great first ladies. But what a wonderful president she would make. And what a repudiation of lawyer jokes she is.
Maximum Bob
June 3, 2007 at 9:21 am
47I thought Elizabeth Edwards was terrific, too. I especially liked her answer to Peter Sagal’s question, “So how much do you spend on haircuts?” (Answer: “From what I hear, more than you.”) It’s fun when the guests have as good a game as the host and the panel.
Boomer
June 3, 2007 at 11:38 am
48Let’s not forget that Scooter Libby gets his comeuppance this week. The sentencing hearing is scheduled for Tuesday, so he’ll finally be given his reward for not ratting out Mr. Cheney - hopefully, 2-1/2 to 3 years.
cooper
June 3, 2007 at 12:31 pm
49Mr. Waterfowler, if you’re looking for a road trip with some really clean-cut and swell family entertainment this summer, this has possibilities - http://www.creationmuseum.org/
Zee Man
June 3, 2007 at 3:49 pm
50Brit Hume, speaking on one the Fox News talking head shows today, referred to Senator John Glenn as a partisan “spearchucker”. Bill Krystal gave him one of his patented shit-eating-grins of encouragement, but I wonder what Brit and fellow panelist Juan Williams talked about off camera.
Just Jay
June 3, 2007 at 7:36 pm
51Seattle Contingent,
In a damnable bit of scheduling, I will be out on the road June 28th, otherwise I would ask if one of you might stop in Oly to pick me up. I’ll raise a glass in abstensia, and hope to hear all of your laughter on KUOW on Saturday morning.
Jay
SeattleDan
June 3, 2007 at 7:58 pm
52I was wondering if you could make it, Jay. You will be missed.
Jay’s been by the store a couple of times, and he’s a great gent. He also works at a job where summer is pretty damn busy.
cooper
June 4, 2007 at 3:30 am
53I’ll bet Brit Hume meant to call Sen. Glenn a partisan “water-carrier”, not “spearchucker”, but a good slur is the first thing that pops into his mind when confronting the distasteful thought on a Democrat kicking former Senator Fred Thompson’s butt from here to next Sunday. I guess Brit really has found a home with Fox News. BTW, is Brit short for “Britney”? No wonder he has a pissed-off look on his face all the time.
It's Pat!
June 4, 2007 at 4:08 am
54Dirk,
Maybe the natives call it Pocatella, but it’s spelled Pocatello. I lived there for a bit in 1980. Or 1950, as it is well established that part of the world is about 30 years behind. Oh the memories - gray snow due to pollution from the Simplot plant (McDonald french fries), Mormons knocking on your door (answering with a beer in your hand kept them from coming back), the lush green on the mountains in June turning to brown by July 1. I miss that area in a perverse way.
Ok, somebody please stop the rain - we have enough for now, thanks. I took a trip through Iowa, and during the parts where I wasn’t sleeping because of the boring drive (it’s so straight, it’s ok to sleep and drive), there was way too much standing water in the fields of corn, soon to be ethanol.
So stop it.
David
June 4, 2007 at 9:25 am
55It’s Pat!
Please, please, please, send that rain to Florida. We are up shit creek (really, the creeks are shit, and not much water). Powder dry sand and rapid depletion of the aquifers are proving disastrous. Hell, I’ll take hurricanes at this point (a wish I suspect will be granted, only in spades, unfortunately). The flooding of the corn fields and the consequences for the corn might be Lobster’s way of saying turning Iowa into a giant precursor of ethanol does not square the the injunction to be good stewards of the earth.
Loved the description, and the carbon-dating, of life in Pocatello.
Susie
June 4, 2007 at 11:53 am
56“In fact, my wife confirmed this when I loudly read it to her from outside her menstrual hut.”
HA!
And the dismount? BRILLIANT!!!!!!!
cooper
June 4, 2007 at 6:55 pm
57Pat, I like your Mormon welcoming strategy. I wonder if it works on Seventh Day Adventists. I’ll give it a try and let you know.
Murray
June 5, 2007 at 6:24 am
58I had a woman from the UK on a tour a couple of years ago. A stunning blond of moderate stature who said that in a business meeting with executives of Proctor and Gamble she said to one, “You’re a pussy”. The room went dead silent. A dozen high powered men sat stone faced having heard fighting words come from this little cutie. She said “What?” They explained just what her words meant here in the colonies. She explained that in Brittisheese it means you are a pussy cat pushover, and the meeting went on.
Two counties divided by a common language.