There’s a furor a-brewing over at Atrios’ place. It seems that radio host Michael Graham appeared on Hardball and defended Boston Globe columnist Bob Ryan’s witty quip about wanting to smack Jason Kidd’s wife. Graham’s explanation? “I found the line a joke. It was a joke. It was just an off the cuff comment. Anyone listening to Hillary Rodham in her speech last week about patriotism, that screaming, screeching fingernail, I wanted to bludgeon her with a tire iron. That’s what I wanted to do.”
Ba-dump-bump! Yeah! Thank you, ladies and germs, and drive safely.
Now Graham’s sending Atrios emails bemoaning the left’s lack of fun - after all, Graham’s remark was a joke as well! “I remember the days when it was Conservatives who had no sense of humor. Does it truly move us forward for the Left to lose theirs, too?”
Graham’s clearly enjoying this. His site has him crowing with glee at how humorless the left seems to be about all this.
Not that Graham doesn’t have some sort of point, I guess - we all need to relax. The guy doesn’t really want to bludgeon Hillary with a tire iron.
My beef with Graham’s remark is on completely different grounds: His joke is not funny. Not that it’s not funny because of the horrific and real problem of violence against women in our society, and etc. Nope. As a humorist, see, I am deeply offended that Graham would continue to defend a joke that was simply not funny, regardless of more PC considerations.
Sure, humor is subjective. But, as Atrios mentions, there’s really no joke there. Graham apparently lacks the comedic skills needed to make beating women really funny. Let’s examine…
An example: Back when I used to teach improv, I’d often land students like Graham - lacking the artistry or natural funniness to mask their anger adequately, they’d just give the rest of the class a huge case of the creeps. One student I recall found an excuse to kill her mother in every scene, even scenes that didn’t involve mothers. Talking to her after class, I learned that she genuinely believed that we all found her matricidal antics hilarious.
That may be why I don’t teach a lot anymore.
Graham’s problem is similar. His little bon mot even lacks the heavy-handed irony of Ryan’s remark; there’s no history behind beating Hillary Clinton, no back-story to draw on. “Bludgeon” is not a bad word, humor-wise, but “tire iron” is a non-starter. “Ball peen hammer” would’ve been a more amusing choice, if a bit too evocative for maximum laffs. “Monkey wrench” suffers from being a bit obvious, though it might’ve worked. Me, I’d of gone with “brained her with a croquet mallet,” or something a little more creative, like “beat her senseless with a mackerel.” Just as violent, but hey, it’s fish!
Even with a quick rewrite like that, though, Graham’s joke has no substance. Hillary’s got no place in the joke - her only resemblance to Joumana Kidd is that she’s a woman whom a man finds annoying. That’s enough of a connection to make a point, of course, but not to make it a real “joke.”
So what could Graham have said? What would’ve been less offensive to me as a comedian? To put it in broad terms (or broad-beating terms. Hey! Thank you!), he needs to bring both Hillary and himself into the equation more elegantly, to provide both context and timing. Here are some suggestions:
The Bait-and-Switch - “I can’t really support Bob Ryan wanting to smack Joumana Kidd. Now, if he wanted to take a coal shovel upside the head of Hillary Clinton, that’d be a different story!”
The Idle Thought - “Now come on, Bob Ryan doesn’t want to smack Joumana Kidd any more than I want to bludgeon Hillary Clinton. Come to think of it…”
The Retract-athon - “Really, if I said I wanted to horsewhip Hillary Clinton for that speech she gave last week, that wouldn’t mean I really wanted to do it.. Though I do. No, not really. Maybe a little. No, really, no. At least not so it’d leave a scar. I’m kidding. No I’m not…”
The Righteous Man - “Honestly, what is this country coming to when we allow a man to talk about beating up women on national TV without once mentioning the pressing need to bitch slap Hillary Clinton?”
Any one of the above would’ve been far less offensive to humorists on both sides of the aisle. Mr. Graham, you should be ashamed of yourself for demeaning and blackening the name of comedians everywhere with your horribly insensitive slur on the entire art of humor.
We await your apology.





17 comments
Athos
May 14, 2003 at 6:16 pm
1I wonder what the response would have been if a “leftie” like Martin Sheen had said something rude about Ann Coulter? Come to think of it, that would be funny.
tim
May 14, 2003 at 6:56 pm
2Ann’s the smacker, not the smackee. Bill Maher could tell you that.
Evan
May 14, 2003 at 7:48 pm
3You could punch up “The Idle Thought” a little bit by changing “Come to think of it…” to “… okay, bad example, but the point is…”
aaron
May 14, 2003 at 10:42 pm
4The best part about the whole scenario was when the coach of the Nets, Byron Scott, said that Bob Ryan “should be fired” for what he said.
The hilarious part is that this is the guy who HIRED the man who actually DID slap the very same woman!!! (although she dropped the charges, so I suppose I need to throw in the obligatory “allegedly” into that last statement.)
Brad
May 15, 2003 at 3:04 am
5You go, Cyrano. Fortunately, Michael Graham’s website now actually has a funny response to his brutally unfunny bon mot (also pointed out by Atrios).
I’m a little worried, Adam, that you don’t find matricide intrinsically humorous. I mean, that’s even funnier than dogs in tuxedos.
And dogs in tuxedos are very, very funny. Especially when they’re bludgeoning Hillary Clinton’s mother with tire irons.
Ken
May 15, 2003 at 11:26 am
6Besides, who ever said democrats don’t have a sense of humor? I mean, out here in California, we actually reelected Gray Davis…. (sound of crickets). No, you’re right, that’s really, really not funny.
And, if you want really creative descriptions of things being done to politically connected women, check out the Morning Fix - a thrice weekly patois of progressive discourse and sex talk put out by a gentleman named Mark Morford at SFGate.com. What that man describes being done to, and by, Lynne Cheney is… well… you have to read it.
Tiffany
May 15, 2003 at 11:54 am
7Adam, thanks for the entry. I really appreciated it.
John Isbell
May 15, 2003 at 12:20 pm
8Adam, your work here is done.
John Isbell
May 15, 2003 at 12:21 pm
9I forgot to say - why not email it to Graham? Except for the creepy thought of a reply from him.
Chicory
May 15, 2003 at 1:33 pm
10I heard about the furor over Bob Ryan’s remark (slow news day?) but never heard the remark from anyone. Now that I’ve had a chance to read it….
neither Ryan nor Graham were funny.
I agree with you, Adam. Now if it had been a squid……..
t.a.
May 15, 2003 at 3:59 pm
11aaron (and other sports fans), just so you know — kidd has admitted publically to hitting his wife. they have gone thru counselling, and he has worked hard to make amends (and, it appears to me, to get to the roots of this violence). that kiss he blows before free throws is for his wife. kudos to jason & jourmana kidd for getting thru this and keeping their marriage intact.
Raya
May 15, 2003 at 6:56 pm
12Frankly, he lost me with the screeching fingernail.
michael
May 15, 2003 at 7:00 pm
13personally, I think comic violence is funny in inverse proportion to its actual efficacy or plausibility…
thus “bludgeon with a tire iron” is much less funny than, say, dropping pianos or anvils.
or, on the other hand (in the same vein as the mackeral) the classic creme pie and seltzer bottle are always useful.
sarah
May 16, 2003 at 2:56 pm
14Humor about Violence against women is never funny
sarah
May 16, 2003 at 2:56 pm
15Humor about Violence against women is never funny
adam
May 16, 2003 at 7:04 pm
16Humor about Violence against women is never funny
Sarah -
[I also got a couple of emails about this: not angry… more inquisitive. So I’ll respond…]
I partially agree with you. “Partially” because violence against women is clearly not a funny topic, but anything horrible can be funny under certain circumstances. One might say that “blowing up buildings is never funny,” particularly in the wake of 9.11, only to find oneself chortling at the climax of “The Producers.” Political assassinations shouldn’t be all that funny either, though I defy anyone to keep a straight face during the offing of Napoleon’s double in “Love and Death.” Etc.
“Love and Death,” by the way, has a supremely funny sequence that involves Diane Keaton getting conked on the head with a wine bottle. Repeatedly. Until she’s unconscious. If you said “humor about women getting bludgeoned into unconsciousness is never funny,” I’d agree in the same way. Yes - but humor that involves a certain woman being bludgeoned into unconsciousness can demonstrably be a riot.
The distinction between about and involving is a crucial one, and humor about atrocities can only be funny, I think, in the most carefully-constructed satire. But humor involving… that’s different.
That’s partially why Graham was so far from the mark. What’s objectionable - what I was trying to bring out here - is that a “joke” like Graham’s really only could appeal to those who found violence against women funny, or, at least, to those who found the topic relatively neutral and thought that violence against Hillary Clinton was inherently funny. Because there’s nothing else there that would constitute a humorous remark - no comic juxtaposition, no humorous “reveal,” nothing.
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If nothing else, the above proves one unalterable truth - explaining humor is Never Funny.
Sarah
May 21, 2003 at 12:41 pm
17Adam, I really like this web-site and your humor, but when you are helping your best friend put her life back together after an abusive relationship, it is hard to find anything about the subject humorous. I shouldn’t have posted that on this sight. Like I said, I usually love to read your blogs, this one just cut a little close to home, but that is my concern not yours. Keep up the very funny work!
Hope you will make it to Portland OR for WWDTM.